There are diverse real life situations we find ourselves in, where we can play a vital role in conveying the call. I intend to share with you through this blog a few real life practical tips on how to possibly start a Dawah conversation and effectively convey the call in scenarios other than street Dawah.
These suggestions are mainly for those who are eager to actually engage in some sort of low level Dawah. Others could take some lessons and inspiration from this!
To make things more relate-able and rather applicable, the style I am going to use is “thinking potentially from inside of the mind of a person in their respective situations and contexts.”
At the office….
You’ve been preparing yourself for the last few weeks to just go for it…You are now determined to spark a Da’wah conversation with your next door desk holder. Yes! This is it!!!
You think to yourself: Shall I start a random conversation about the office and then somehow link it to Islam? Or break a pencil in 2 & then holding it up in the air, make a small cross bow; start a discussion on the philosophy of things breaking into two, and then somehow using physics and metaphysics link the discussion to the existence of God? Or discuss last night’s footy? Or what?!!
Well, if you have these thoughts in your mind, you’ve wayyyyyy over thought this!
You are worrying about the smallest details a little too much! The initiation of a Da’wah invitation is not fake. It’s not a skit or a theater display. It is every day human thinking and emotions. If you are truly showing amazing mannerisms at the office, the opportunity shall present itself!
Check yourself before diving deep into serious Da’wah talks, it will help you and it will help your mission.
See if you can tick the following boxes:
✅ Have I always cleaned and tidied up the office washroom after wudhu?
✅ Have I made extra effort when it comes to punctuality? (Always the first into the office way before time?)
✅ Have I shown utmost chivalry, polite manners, general charm to my colleagues? (Always smiling, always helpful, never exaggerating or telling a lie!)
✅ Have I explained my position at the outset, maybe not at the interview but the first day? (The prayer timings, the not so fixed Eid Dates? Why it is desirable, out of a ‘beyond this world/unique ‘ respect, that you cannot shake the hands of someone who isn’t your wife/sister/mother/ mahram?) (Oh what’s a mahram? Well…Here is your chance, explain away!) Why you prefer cafes, classy restaurants, juice bars over pubs/bars!) Did you put all of this forward using all the positive words and emotive language indicating a request rather than a command.
If you have ticked even a couple of the above, then its a good start. So if your bases are covered and you’ve already built an amazing image of yourself in your colleagues minds, then whatever you say (unless it is UnIslamic) will be welcomed and taken with consideration.
Another key mindset to have is that you can turn the latest news headlines (2017 era) into your advantage. Rather than trying to avoid eye contact after something negative towards Muslims has been plastered all over the news, be prepared to answer curious questions from your fellow colleagues. This is your chance to remove the misconceptions and then discuss tawheed and why Allah SWT deserve worship. The news is helping you to start a Dawah conversation!
Housewives in a large town or suburbs!
You and your family have chosen to live in England and so, yes! You will always be very special. How? You may be thinking? Well…
You thought you have to cook for your family only, or maybe clean for them alone?
You will have to always think about Mrs. Smith to your right, Mr.& Mrs. Jones to your left & Sir Bradley a couple of houses away. You will have to make it a ritual to cook something very nice, perhaps once or twice a month and send it round with love and care!
And whilst visiting, offer to tidy up for them too.
If you are meeting elderly women, ask if you can call them “Aunty”, and as you see them as your Aunty, offer short massages.
This and other basic manners in Islam will automatically create comfort and trust and the questions will automatically be pouring in. “So Zainab, how long have you been wearing this hijab? Do you mind if I ask, don’t you feel hot sometimes? I am sorry if I ask” OR “Why does it have to be halal?” Or even “So why are these Muslims killing each other in Syria?”
Answer with a beaming smile and hot cuppa, answer in a warm and compassionate manner. Never become defensive. If the discussion is getting long then introduce bits of GORAP.
Depending on comfort and connection, you can also dare to ask questions, like, “So Mrs. Smith, if you don’t mind, I’ve always wanted to ask you…?”
Whether or not they accept Islam; whether or not you were able to articulate your answers and explain Islam correctly, what matters is that you conveyed the call! In the circumstances and with your limited abilities, you tried something. Now you just need to build upon this.
Yes, conceded and very tricky. Kids at school can be vicious. One wrong move and that’s it fella! Game over for you! So what does this mean?
Well, see this as an extra incentive to simply be the best! Yes!!!
strive to become the best cricketer, footballer, martial artist and so on! this translates to extra practice; more than anyone, that in turn makes one extra fit. Extra fit >>>>
extra cool>>> extra compliments.
Be Always in tune with the latest fashion sense, the best perfumes and you gotta be the best smiling guy at school, (beware of the Fitna of girls and help yourself with fasting regularly !!!) best hairstyle, tidy, clean, swag young bro!
Of course extra, extra tuition, because you HAVE to be the best student, excelling above all!
This could really help towards an image that would make other school kids explain:
“OH! Abdul, yeah he’s oright! Him…” that is a huge praise from an English white Non-Muslim school kid!
So you will naturally see other boys wanting to be your mate. They won’t mind at all that you quietly slip away sometimes and do some sort of prayers and that you avoid music, dancing and girls…!
Then after a few months have gone by and you have established yourself as one of the cool guys at school. This is when you always be there for advice. Become and adviser. Always ask, in the coolest and chilled out way, how’s the family? what do you get up to at the weekends and so on. Yes, this can be tricky ground. Especially in a group conversation and banter. But its the ‘one to one’ situations and conversations where you can potentially have ‘deep’ conversations about the purpose of life. share inspirational short videos from channels like ‘the merciful servant or the daily reminder’ and others. Get their opinion..
So again, the above are theoretical examples and may even completely sound not doable. But perhaps its got you thinking? perhaps you could come up with your own strategy? or something that you could potentially try.
Many are fearful & simply do not know where to begin! So I hope, more than anything, some confidence and hope could be taken away from these ideas.
As always, This blog is merely a discussion starter. This extremely brief piece is open to suggestions, to be improved upon and built upon. I always advocate thinking outside the box and get some of our brain cells ticking in all matters related to the Dawah.
May Allah SWT aid you in your efforts and give you the courage to start Dawah conversations with any one and everyone!